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Malaysian Traditional
and Culture
This is second Wedding for Mr.Ong's Family. Last year his son got married. Now his daughter. I am a friend of him for nearly 20 years. All this house or family function he will invite me. Some times I will take foreigners for the functions. This wedding took place on 07-07-07. It's seen on that day there were 200 over Wedding in Malaysia.
This part of the tradition is quite hilarious. Bridegroom ,
supported by his friends tried to convince the girls that he was the best choice
for the bride. The girls however were not convinced and wanted to him to prove
that. Then he had to find some people to lick some lollypops. Finally the girls
asked for some money, RM 10.000! When the groom gave them a note of 5000
Indonesian roepias (about 10 RM) the girls send him away. Their friend who not
go so cheap! Bridegroom 's friends even tried to get in the room with the bride
by force but the girls were stronger. And so the groom left, part of the game,
but soon to return. Apparently the girls had changed their mind and now the
bride could come out under loud cheerings of all people available. Together they
had to perform some ceremonies. This ceremony was to confirm the ties with
family and pay respect to the gods and ancestors. Tea was
served to the parents and the oldest living closest relative and after that,
many other relatives followed the same procedure. Finally we left the
grandmothers house and drove back to Penang. Inside the grooms parents house the
exact same procedure as in the brides' house took place. First the parents were
served tea in front of the home altar, then in following the oldest closest
living relative and others. Meanwhile, outside in the tent, some food was
served. While some of the family members performed the necessarry rituals,
others had their lunch. The dinner took place in a restaurant in Penang. We arrived in
Penang around 6.30pm. The dinner was supposed to start around 8pm. The dinner
would consist 9 different dishes according to Chinese customs for traditional
Chinese weddings. The whole dinner would take about 2 to 3 hours but the groom
would not be around the whole dinner. Again, Chinese customs didn't allow him to
stay the full dinner. In general after about 5 dishes, he should go back to his
own house. During the dinner, a karaoke was available. If nobody of the guests
would like to sing, the singing would be performed by a man or a woman special
hired for this job It is important to mention people in Kuala Kurau are mostly
Taoist, so parts of the ceremony probably will not be performed in other Chinese
weddings in either Malaysia or other areas in the world where Chinese live. The
parents of Mr. Ong Kok Lam brought the groom in the living room. He was dressed
in pajamas. In front of the house altar a small ceremony took place. Mr. Ong Kok
Lam offered tea to his parents and prayed to the gods and
ancestors for good luck and prosperity. The ceremony also has
to confirm the ties with the family. Although the new
couple would live in the house of the grooms parents, it was
important to confirm the family ties.
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